Saturday, December 6, 2014

12/06/14

Last night was beautiful and I want to remember it. I want to bottle the moment the night and hold it dearly. The best I can do is hope my memory serves me correctly and these words revive such moments hold them in suspension.

Last night Alan dropped by before he went to hang out with Bailey. Brian came home after spending time with Lauren and Travis after spending time with Melissa. These nights I suppose will become more and more scarce as we grow older. Here I am the first of this group to reach 27 though Travis is only 2 months behind me it feels strange we are entering into our late 20's.

The night was rare and unique. We aren't in college anymore but we aren't yet husbands. This strange place between our childhood and adulthood. The self awareness of it all is what makes this time so interesting.

Our conversations orbit around such things as careers, women, buying houses, retirement plans, beliefs. Yet in the same breath we joke, we laugh, we act like we are 19 again. Its interesting to me how I've known these guys since I was a kid. We've grown together. We've gone separate ways and yet still come back to this friendship.

We play the same board games we did as kids but the conversation has grown with us. The drinks turned from mountain dew to bourbon. The competitive edge has rounded to a smooth bend of friendship.

What are we right now? We are in this place where we can spend time hanging out with 40 year old friend and yet at the same time go to the bars like we are 21.

I have no problem going to sleep around 10 on a Friday night or staying out until 2.

I want to live in my car and travel around the country, yet I want to put some away for retirement.

Alan talked about protesting in Ferguson. How he can up in leave to go and not worry about leaving his wife, his kids, his job just go and protest and not worry about if he gets arrested. Yet talking with older friends he learned the perspective of how temporary this place we are in truly is. We won't always be able to go wherever risking our lives because our lives will mean more to others. They depend on us. What a selfish act to get arrested stranding my wife to care for our kids solo. Yet we need people there showing the numbers of those who won't settle for injustice.

I told him about how I want to climb Mt Whitney, I want to hike the PCT and the appalachian, and hike around Machu Picchu. Yes right now I feel as good if not better than I did when I was in high school but someday and I'm not sure when that day will come, hiking around for days and days will not seem fun...even still it won't be possible someday. Its strange how temporary everything is. I think that is what makes youth so beautiful and rare.

in my 20's each year has been better than the last but the scales will tip. They must and I wonder what that will feel like. What will it be like to look at my life and admit my best days are behind me? When will that day come?

But now, these days, this time, we are young, we are single, we are friends who's roots have been growing deeper and deeper into each others lives. Brian Travis and I sat together talking about Travis buying a home and us living there helping him pay the mortgage. I use to vomit at the thought of friends spending there time talking like adults now I see the beauty and value in friends growing together helping each other on deeper levels than simply spending time together for entertainment. Friends are valuable.

Friends help make life's weight lighter. Friends help make life's pain easier. Friends help life's pressures, worries, and also life's celebrations more joyous.

How beautiful it is to attend a friends wedding and share in that day with them.

I have always been told how love makes the world go round but the more I live the more I see the truth in such statements.

Without love life is only existence.
Life is merely survival.
God is love.
God breathed the breath of life into us.
God breathed His Spirit, His image into us.
God breathed love into this reality and through it life and life to the fullest is now possible.
That thirst for something is satisfied in love.

God is love.
Love is home.
Home is where the heart is.
Home is where I am understood.
God is home.

Brady Toops - Come On Home