Monday, December 2, 2013

12/02/13

Dear 27 year old Adam,

I've just turned 26. The last year of my mid twenties. My 25th year comes to a close and the 26th begins. Greeting from the past! I have an iPhone 5, Breaking Bad just had it's season finale this year. The temporary Fruit of the Vine pantry was used this year. I'm trying to think of things that happened this year that when you read this in the future you will laugh and it will take you back. I'm really into Bon Iver and Avett Brothers right now. I'm using Twitter. That's all I can think of now.

Things I'm doing now:
I was working for Scott doing landscaping up until April when I started at the Vineyard Early Childhood Center. I'm loving working with these kids. I'm in the Rainbow Room which is for the 3-4 year olds. I'm living in Cintonville now with Ellen, Brian, and Travis. At the moment I am again single. I'm not sure the last time I wasn't on my birthday. I still go to the Pantry. In fact the renovations were just finished a couple weeks ago. It looks amazing. I'm about to purchase a guitar and start doing lessons with Travis. I've been growing out my hair for the past 7 months. I finally started seeing Toni, Nathanael's counselor. I started seeing her in the spring then took a break and now I have been going consistently for the past 2 months. I've been helping out at the Franklinton Gardens weekly until it started to get cold and dark early. I'm still going to Better Way on Friday nights.

Things I hope you're doing:
I hope you know how to play guitar now. I hope you aren't single on this birthday although I'd understand if you took this year off from women and continued to work with Toni. I hope Bea and you are talking again. Honestly I hope Bea and you are dating again. But at this point I'd settle for getting the opportunity just to listen to her thoughts and feelings. I hope you haven't wrecked this car. I hope you are still working at the VECC with the kids. I hope you are still going to the pantry at least once a week. I hope you are still writing in this blog. I hope you aren't an angry stubborn dude struggling with self hate. I hope you've learned how to let go of control and how to receive love. I hope you have been growing the beard all year. I hope you haven't cut your hair. I hope you are still going to the gym. I hope you listen far more than you speak.

Things I've learned since turning 25:
I learned that I love New York City. I visited Alan while he was attending school in NYC and instantly fell in love with the place. I'm not sure if I will ever move there but I will definitely make another trip. I learned a bit about life and death. In the spring I totaled my car and even though I walked away from it I gained a bit of perspective. It was crazy realizing that in one uncontrollable moment I could never walk again, maybe never breath again. Life is precious and it goes by fast. Why waste my time taking it so seriously and playing it safe? Why spend life in fear. My grandpa died this past September. It was strange experiencing the first death in my family. The funeral, the cemetery. Seeing my grandmother without her husband for the first time in 64 years, it's a strange thing to understand. I've been seeing Toni and I've been learning so much. I've learned that I am angry man. I've learned I have a lot of self hatred. I've learned that I don't do well in intimate relationships with women. I push them away in fear that they will see who I really am and leave me. I struggle with trust. Trusting other people and trusting God. I live a sort of "if you want it done right you got to do it yourself" lifestyle. I learned that I love Bea. I learned that love must be free. I learned that you can't control everything. I've learned that sometimes when things go bad it isn't 100% my fault. I've learned that I have a gift and a giant heart for children. I've learned a bit more about love. What it looks like, what if feels like. What I want in a wife and what I need. I've learned that grace is a thing that doesn't make sense but yet it doesn't have to.


1987 Born
1988 00
1989 01
1990 02
1991 03
1992 04
1993 05
1994 06 Started Grade School
1995 07
1996 08
1997 09
1998 10
1999 11
2000 12
2001 13
2002 14
2003 15
2004 16
2005 17
2006 18 Graduated High School
2007 19
2008 20
2009 21
2010 22 Graduated College
2011 23
2012 24
2013 25