Her manipulative fucking ex husband
When Tem and I first started seeing each other August of 2017 it was perfect. We went on adventures, we'd go out, introduce each other to our friends, Some evenings we'd just sit together talking about life. Eventually down the road sex as added into our mix and it amplified our relationship. Everything was perfect. Finally before my 30th birthday I'd found the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Around the one year mark, things began to change. Our sex life started to slow, nothing to worry about really our sex was so electric and often before it must naturally slow to something more sustainable as the relationship grows.
But the sex continued to fizzle, These things happen I suppose and it isn't that big of a deal because the other aspects of the relationship are so perfect. We never fight, we laugh all the time, we share so much of our very different lives together. We managed to survive 10 days in a tent circling Iceland with little to no personal space away from each other. That is a very rare and beautiful thing.
But as summer turned to fall in late 2018 arguments began to surface. Surely couples argue and let's be honest it was only a matter of time before we were going to find some communication breakdowns.
As the days grew shorter and the temperature dropped winter hit. Winter of 2019 has been very very difficult for us. Sex is gone, Arguments nonstop, insecurities have surfaced full blown in both of us. Now it seems all we do it argue until one of us is too tired to continue and we go to bed.
I don't know, is this what a long term relationship looks like? The scale tips from all good with a little rough to all rough with a little good and we spend our time thinking back to the good old days of our relationship?
All the while sprinkled throughout our relationship has been the intermittent appearances and occurrences of her ex husband.
This is to be expected right? I mean they were fucking married.
So I shrug it off. She loves me right? She talks about how terrible he was right? What do I have to worry about and who am I to control another person telling her who she can and cannot talk to?
Time goes by:
Josh came over today
Josh texted me today
so Josh called me
I wanted to let you know Josh has been texting me
I saw Josh at the grocery
Ran into Josh while I was out
And a month turns to a season, and a season turns into a year, and a year grows past another season
And I sit at the table of her parents house quietly as they discuss his other man
and I sit at the bar with my pint as friends of friends speak of this man
and I am told "we facetimed"
No sex
All fighting
texting the ex husband
In Fall of 2017 this man spit only hate towards me. He said things about me to his wife and he had never even met me. Now in Winter of 2019 I can hear his words coming out of my own mouth about this man I've never met.
We have switched places.
I am now the neglectful significant other
and he is the kind attention giving confidant
He tells her he loves her as simple as breathing, just the way she likes it
He texts back and Facetimes punctually, quickly, just the way she likes it
I don't cuddle as well as he once did
I am forever the 'treats her better than Josh' new guy
Not simply Tem's boyfriend
It seems since the new year Tem and I have been coasting on the energy reserves of found memories past. Both of us unwilling to end this relationship because of how absolutely fucking perfect in every way it once was From August 2017 to August 2018. But This isn't then. This is now.
It seems we spend most of our time talking about how many needs of hers I no longer meet.
And this manipulative conniving man has been waiting in the wing waiting for me to fuck up exactly as I am now. Working the circumstances, making sure he will forever be a part of her life. Friends with her brother, Roommates with her friend, Creeping doctor's offices near her new address, inside her phone to the point that she talks about him with her parents, keeping himself alive with in their minds as well.
He kissed a stripped and suddenly that's the line. Can't believe he crossed. Never mind the strippers ass and vagina being pressed against his dick countless nights, that's fine, that isn't cheating. Pressing ass to dick, fine, pressing her face on his face...whoa now that is too far.
Fuck this guy. And fuck the way he plants this hate within my heart towards him.
I am tired.
This is exhausting.
Everyone loves Josh
And Josh, always gets his way.
Khalid - Talk
When Tem and I first started seeing each other August of 2017 it was perfect. We went on adventures, we'd go out, introduce each other to our friends, Some evenings we'd just sit together talking about life. Eventually down the road sex as added into our mix and it amplified our relationship. Everything was perfect. Finally before my 30th birthday I'd found the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Around the one year mark, things began to change. Our sex life started to slow, nothing to worry about really our sex was so electric and often before it must naturally slow to something more sustainable as the relationship grows.
But the sex continued to fizzle, These things happen I suppose and it isn't that big of a deal because the other aspects of the relationship are so perfect. We never fight, we laugh all the time, we share so much of our very different lives together. We managed to survive 10 days in a tent circling Iceland with little to no personal space away from each other. That is a very rare and beautiful thing.
But as summer turned to fall in late 2018 arguments began to surface. Surely couples argue and let's be honest it was only a matter of time before we were going to find some communication breakdowns.
As the days grew shorter and the temperature dropped winter hit. Winter of 2019 has been very very difficult for us. Sex is gone, Arguments nonstop, insecurities have surfaced full blown in both of us. Now it seems all we do it argue until one of us is too tired to continue and we go to bed.
I don't know, is this what a long term relationship looks like? The scale tips from all good with a little rough to all rough with a little good and we spend our time thinking back to the good old days of our relationship?
All the while sprinkled throughout our relationship has been the intermittent appearances and occurrences of her ex husband.
This is to be expected right? I mean they were fucking married.
So I shrug it off. She loves me right? She talks about how terrible he was right? What do I have to worry about and who am I to control another person telling her who she can and cannot talk to?
Time goes by:
Josh came over today
Josh texted me today
so Josh called me
I wanted to let you know Josh has been texting me
I saw Josh at the grocery
Ran into Josh while I was out
And a month turns to a season, and a season turns into a year, and a year grows past another season
And I sit at the table of her parents house quietly as they discuss his other man
and I sit at the bar with my pint as friends of friends speak of this man
and I am told "we facetimed"
No sex
All fighting
texting the ex husband
In Fall of 2017 this man spit only hate towards me. He said things about me to his wife and he had never even met me. Now in Winter of 2019 I can hear his words coming out of my own mouth about this man I've never met.
We have switched places.
I am now the neglectful significant other
and he is the kind attention giving confidant
He tells her he loves her as simple as breathing, just the way she likes it
He texts back and Facetimes punctually, quickly, just the way she likes it
I don't cuddle as well as he once did
I am forever the 'treats her better than Josh' new guy
Not simply Tem's boyfriend
It seems since the new year Tem and I have been coasting on the energy reserves of found memories past. Both of us unwilling to end this relationship because of how absolutely fucking perfect in every way it once was From August 2017 to August 2018. But This isn't then. This is now.
It seems we spend most of our time talking about how many needs of hers I no longer meet.
And this manipulative conniving man has been waiting in the wing waiting for me to fuck up exactly as I am now. Working the circumstances, making sure he will forever be a part of her life. Friends with her brother, Roommates with her friend, Creeping doctor's offices near her new address, inside her phone to the point that she talks about him with her parents, keeping himself alive with in their minds as well.
He kissed a stripped and suddenly that's the line. Can't believe he crossed. Never mind the strippers ass and vagina being pressed against his dick countless nights, that's fine, that isn't cheating. Pressing ass to dick, fine, pressing her face on his face...whoa now that is too far.
Fuck this guy. And fuck the way he plants this hate within my heart towards him.
I am tired.
This is exhausting.
Everyone loves Josh
And Josh, always gets his way.
Khalid - Talk