The Baby Daddy, the Husband, and the Homewrecker
Last Friday night after Claire's housewarming party Tem and I went to her friend's to check out her new apartment and to meet another friend's husband.
We started playing the self conscious oral health inducing game, speak out. It was the women vs the men. It seemed strange three men thrown together in an apartment our only commonality was the women we like are friends with one another.
The baby daddy kept passive aggressively fighting with the future mother of his child taking jabs about using duct tape to hang everything and apparently preplanned discussions about taking pictures or not.
The husband seemed in good spirits for some reason bringing up his wife's previous expeditions blacking out and his subsequent carrying of her out gas stations.
The homewrecker ate an entire pint of ice cream that belonged to the host, unapologetically
I wonder what we thought of each other and what we thought of each other's relationships
I know at least how I feel about them
I wonder what the baby daddy thinks of the homewrecker, I wonder what he thinks of the husband, and I wonder how he feels living in this city away from his life creating a new one for his circumstances. I wonder if he thinks about it each morning when he wakes up or late at night before he goes to bed. The husband, He's known the women in the room longer than the other men by many years. I wonder his thoughts on these women we like, I wonder his views on the men in comparison to previous relationships. I wonder what the story looks like through his lens how things have played out. I suppose I wonder these same things about the women. How do they feel about their friends and how their friends' lives have been unfolding. How do they feel about their own lives, are any of the people at this table happy? If they could wipe their 20's clean and start fresh would they be at this table tonight? I wonder what the women think of their friends' significant others are they happy for each other, do they have concerns they'd like to voice but, don't?
I wonder if I think too much and I just need to chill the fuck out.
Life is so very strange.
Thanksgiving 2017 in Wauseon, Ohio.
I drove to Wauseon the morning of Thanksgiving. I arrived, we ate, we watched TV during the meal. After the meal we began the tradition of putting the tree up...Tyler put in Christmas Vacation as we did it. I'm not sure why my brother is so set in these strange traditions...I know what anyone who knows me would think about that statement from me...but it's different. I have no problem with the tradition of putting up the tree after the meal. Everything being the same...It's the fact that we have to watch that 28 year old movie EVERY YEAR...yeah it's funny I get it but maybe let it breathe for a year or two, maybe I want to watch the Cowboys game...Afterwards he said we have to watch Home Alone...again a 27 year old movie... I won't go into my families love of the television being on because it does help fill the silence that might create conflict to talk about the NFL players taking a knee because I'm sure my family is sick of hearing my big city liberal rants. I'm sure they don't even listen to me when I speak.
After the tree was set everyone went to bed and Black Friday arrived. I really wanted to slip back to Columbus but I knew I should put in some time with my family. My dad picked up a shift working at the hospitals kitchen. As he informed us yesterday he only takes the shifts of those who work hard at the hospital he wouldn't take a "bum's shift"
On our way to Toledo my mother started oversharing some issues she's been having with my dad since the store was closed. She mentioned a virus on the computer he wouldn't tell her the source of it...She mentioned his near $100 tabs at the local bar while she's out of town visiting her family...Why he wouldn't go with her to visit her family...I don't know but I'm not surprised... She starts talking about how his income at the moment is about $500 every two weeks... It felt strange hearing my mother complain about her marriage to my brother and I. I tried to pace out a few "huhs" and "yeahs" while Tyler stayed completely silent and out of it...I should have turned to Tyler and said if you want to save this family they are going to need at least one grand kid out of you and Brittany it's been over 5 years of marriage after probably another 4 or so years of dating...
We finished our shopping got back home just as Doug was returning from work. I hugged them all goodbye and left for Columbus.
I wonder how my dad feels...I wouldn't even know how to begin to have a deep conversation with my father. I've never had one in my life with him. I'm not even sure I know who he is, the kind of man he is.
Week 13 of teaching completed.
Novo Amor & Ed Tullett - Terraform
Last Friday night after Claire's housewarming party Tem and I went to her friend's to check out her new apartment and to meet another friend's husband.
We started playing the self conscious oral health inducing game, speak out. It was the women vs the men. It seemed strange three men thrown together in an apartment our only commonality was the women we like are friends with one another.
The baby daddy kept passive aggressively fighting with the future mother of his child taking jabs about using duct tape to hang everything and apparently preplanned discussions about taking pictures or not.
The husband seemed in good spirits for some reason bringing up his wife's previous expeditions blacking out and his subsequent carrying of her out gas stations.
The homewrecker ate an entire pint of ice cream that belonged to the host, unapologetically
I wonder what we thought of each other and what we thought of each other's relationships
I know at least how I feel about them
I wonder what the baby daddy thinks of the homewrecker, I wonder what he thinks of the husband, and I wonder how he feels living in this city away from his life creating a new one for his circumstances. I wonder if he thinks about it each morning when he wakes up or late at night before he goes to bed. The husband, He's known the women in the room longer than the other men by many years. I wonder his thoughts on these women we like, I wonder his views on the men in comparison to previous relationships. I wonder what the story looks like through his lens how things have played out. I suppose I wonder these same things about the women. How do they feel about their friends and how their friends' lives have been unfolding. How do they feel about their own lives, are any of the people at this table happy? If they could wipe their 20's clean and start fresh would they be at this table tonight? I wonder what the women think of their friends' significant others are they happy for each other, do they have concerns they'd like to voice but, don't?
I wonder if I think too much and I just need to chill the fuck out.
Life is so very strange.
Thanksgiving 2017 in Wauseon, Ohio.
I drove to Wauseon the morning of Thanksgiving. I arrived, we ate, we watched TV during the meal. After the meal we began the tradition of putting the tree up...Tyler put in Christmas Vacation as we did it. I'm not sure why my brother is so set in these strange traditions...I know what anyone who knows me would think about that statement from me...but it's different. I have no problem with the tradition of putting up the tree after the meal. Everything being the same...It's the fact that we have to watch that 28 year old movie EVERY YEAR...yeah it's funny I get it but maybe let it breathe for a year or two, maybe I want to watch the Cowboys game...Afterwards he said we have to watch Home Alone...again a 27 year old movie... I won't go into my families love of the television being on because it does help fill the silence that might create conflict to talk about the NFL players taking a knee because I'm sure my family is sick of hearing my big city liberal rants. I'm sure they don't even listen to me when I speak.
After the tree was set everyone went to bed and Black Friday arrived. I really wanted to slip back to Columbus but I knew I should put in some time with my family. My dad picked up a shift working at the hospitals kitchen. As he informed us yesterday he only takes the shifts of those who work hard at the hospital he wouldn't take a "bum's shift"
On our way to Toledo my mother started oversharing some issues she's been having with my dad since the store was closed. She mentioned a virus on the computer he wouldn't tell her the source of it...She mentioned his near $100 tabs at the local bar while she's out of town visiting her family...Why he wouldn't go with her to visit her family...I don't know but I'm not surprised... She starts talking about how his income at the moment is about $500 every two weeks... It felt strange hearing my mother complain about her marriage to my brother and I. I tried to pace out a few "huhs" and "yeahs" while Tyler stayed completely silent and out of it...I should have turned to Tyler and said if you want to save this family they are going to need at least one grand kid out of you and Brittany it's been over 5 years of marriage after probably another 4 or so years of dating...
We finished our shopping got back home just as Doug was returning from work. I hugged them all goodbye and left for Columbus.
I wonder how my dad feels...I wouldn't even know how to begin to have a deep conversation with my father. I've never had one in my life with him. I'm not even sure I know who he is, the kind of man he is.
Week 13 of teaching completed.
Novo Amor & Ed Tullett - Terraform